This is fucking bullshit
apparently i only go on this thing when i need to rant.
but let’s be realistic, the sole existence of this is for me to rant on.
So let’s do this…
Dear WordPress,
I have recently started to date this guy . He’s super nice and sweet and he bought me flowers twice. He’s a good person and doesn’t have bad intentions. He really did get me hooked the second that I started talking to him. We immediately started to date. It seemed to fit so well, there weren’t any reason not to. It’s been about two months. It’s really quite new.
But we fight like it’s the end of the world.
It’s the way savages fight for food, when they know that the apocalypse is coming, and they need stock up in case they survive the impending doom. We fight so ferociously it’s frightening.
And I don’t know why.
It’s incredibly ridiculous why we start too!
I can say something with a tinge of sarcasm and he blows up over the phone. Listen, I know that I’m insecure. I know that I’m crazy. I know that I have issues. But who in the world doesn’t?! Ok, so let’s say that I have more issues than most normal people ( which I don’t think is true, everyone has some crazy shit they are dealing with) But it’s lets just say, for the sake of argument, that I am beyond repair. Let’s just say that I’m just so crazy and that he is a saint for dealing with my fucking bullshit.
So here’s an example:
Sunday Night
me: hey when are we hanging out again?
him: on tuesday!
me: oh yeah ? I didn’t know that?
him: yup, tuesday, we’ll hang out.
me: what will we do?
him: hmm, i dunno yet, we have monday to figure it out.
me: ok then! we’ll figure something out. 
Monday Evening
me: so what are your plans for this week since you’re on spring break?
him: hmm well im gona go to Ac, then on wednesday I’m gonna hang out with you…
me: no on tuesday, you said so
him: was it tuesday? umm.
me: yeah, you said so …
him: oh well um, i found out i have a dinner on tuesday actually
me: oh … -kinda ticked off-
him: yeah
me: oh…. thanks for telling me in advance
him: yeah i just found out today.
me thinking = what the fuck? we made plans on sunday………
me: oh …ok then. um.. who are you going with
him: my friend hannah.
me thinking = what the fuck? he fucking double books, completely forgets about our plans, and doesn’t even invite me to dinner with his friends as a compensation for being a dick….
me: oh yeah i remember her. who else are you going with?
him: her and matt
me thinking = what the fuck, i’m actually friends with matt!
me: oh wow well that sounds like fun.
him: are you mad?
me: well i’m a little annoyed, you should have told me earlier.
him: well i just found out today
me thinking = BUT YOU FUCKING MADE PLANS WITH ME FIRST YOU ASSHOLE! If I was in that situation, i would have rescheduled with Party B or combined the dates.
me: yeah, but still you know.. i can be ticked off.
him: you know whats with your attitude? why do you always make me feel guilty for hanging out with my friends?
me thinking = WHAT THE FUCK ?!???!?!?!??!!??!?!?!
me: i dont try to do that! it’s just you made plans with me first, then made plans with someone else, and didn’t tell me and i had to find out the wrong way and you didn’t even ask me to reschedule. i’m allowed to be ticked off.
him: well i’m sorry i was going to ask you to reschedule and it came out the wrong way.
me thinking = that’s fucking bullshit. you should have told me the second i asked you what your plans were for the week! OMG YOU’RE A DOUCHEBAG!
me: listen, just don’t worry about it, i’ll get over it.
him: this is fucking ridiculous
-start the 30 minute yelling match-
I dunno about you Dr. WordPress, but I think he overreacted.
But listen doc, I’m a crazy bitch. And a crazy bitch at the worse times too.
Here’s an example:
His birthday party in hoboken:
friend: yo, where’s you’re boyfriend?
me: eh he’s around getting drunk with his friends
friend: oh yeah, must be really popular
me: haha yeah he is actually, he has to make his rounds. what do you think of him?
friend: he’s cute. good job!
me: haha thanks
friend: yeah but he’s so MIA… lets grab a drink and look for him.
me: yeah good idea
-looks for him for about 20 minutes… no luck-
me: I dunno where he could be. He must just be bouncing back and forth between places.
friend: yeah… probably
me: lets grab another drink and maybe we’ll bump into him.
-20 minutes later, no luck, we’re on the line to the bathroom-
friend: yo! isn’t that you’re boyfriend? -points at asian man in white jacket entering men’s stall-
me: omg yeah!, Hey ( i dont want to use his real name so let’s call him Jack, after Jack Daniels) Jack!
-Jack doens’t hear me-
- I follow him to the men’s room-
me: are you ok?
him: arl gaeo;u f gwou dafi -drunken slur-
bouncer: sweetie, you’re not supposed to be in here
me: I know… -i leave and get back on line-
me thinking = he must be really drunk….
friend: wow he’s wasted
me: yeah .. it’s pretty bad.
-Jack leaves men’s room, walks right past me… i grab him… and try to kiss him, I haven’t seen him all night. I miss him =( -
-Jack barely responds…. it’s no use, I let him go. He walks away-
me thinking = omg he’s so drunk… =(
( im not gonna lie, at this point, I felt really neglected and … alone. but I gotta brush it off)
friend: dear, i dont think he’s that into you. that you’re on different levels. He doesn’t seem to care.
me: but he’s drunk. he’s probably had like a gazillion shots.
friend: fuck that, if i had that many shots, i’d be all over my significant other.
me: no don’t say that. he’s just really drunk -about to burst into tears-
-Jack is walking towards me, tries to hides the tears-
-Jack walks past me… through doors, past me… WTF?-
me: where is he going? Jack
friend: Omg he just got kicked out.
me thinking = OH NO! that sucks! he must be really trashed. he’s gonna call me to tell me that he got kicked out
-10 minutes later, no call…-
-I am in tears-
-I .. in my drunken state… assume he left me =( -
-I turn to alcohol-
-Bad things ensue-
Ok , so I freaked out on his birthday and I shouldn’t have done that. But, it’s true, I felt neglected. I felt alone. My friends were there and our mutual friends were there, so I wasnt, but I was. Even if he was that wasted, why didn’t he call to ask me where I was. It was so inconsiderate. I don’t want to be with someone who will just leave me in the dust because he’s too busy being popular. Becuase he’s too busy getting shots from other people. I knew that it was his birthday party, but what my friend said really struck a nerve and I should have been stronger than to let her get in my head. But I wasn’t, and I let her get into my head, and it was done. Things got worse throughout the night. I don’t want to put myself through further embarrassment, so I’m not going to elaborate.
I don’t know. You know I’m really worried for us. I’m starting to think we’re going downhill and we’re not going to make it. His friends have no respect for after the stunt I pulled on his birthday part, and my friends don’t like him because they think he neglected me.
And to top it all off, he’s being so spiteful about it and not letting me live it down. And when he gets pissed at me, he brings it up as leverage, as a way to validate himself! WtF? Why is he being so spiteful!
And he yells at me “You always make me feel like I’m in the wrong.. what about you?”
What about me? I know I fucked up on his birthday I KNOW IT, and he doesn’t even remember it because he was too wasted.
It’s just another thing for him to use against me. It’s like he’s tallying all the times that I fuck up.
And when he blows up on me and I get upset with him, I’m not allowed? What the hell?!
I try, I try to be calm and collected. I try to compromise. I try to admit my own faults. I try to be say, ‘No I shouldn’t have made such a big deal about it. I’m a little sensitive sometimes and I take things to heart when I shouldn’t’. But I feel like he doesn’t see it. He doesn’t see that I’m trying to keep it together. That I’m trying to blow up and say awful things about him, because I don’t want to hurt him with my spiteful words.
I hate that we fight all the time about stupid things. It’s ridiculous. It’s absurd.
It’s unnecessary!
But we do.
and it scares me.
I don’t know… I’ll finish this later.
=(
